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Get Over Anyone for Good: The 30-Day Plan to Stop Loving Someone Who's Gone

A Day-by-Day System to Survive No Contact, Quiet the Obsessive Thoughts, and Get Your Life Back

by Dr. Maya Sutton (Author)

★★★★★ 4.8 518 ratings
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About this book

A brutally practical, 30-day, day-by-day program for anyone who knows it's over but can't stop loving, checking, and hoping. It replaces vague 'time heals' advice with concrete daily actions to survive No Contact, break the obsessive thought loop, grieve on purpose, and rebuild an identity that doesn't revolve around the person who left.

You already know it's over. That's not the problem. The problem is that your brain didn't get the memo, and every night it drags you back to the same person who is never coming back. You've read the quotes. You've heard 'just give it time.' You've maybe even gone No Contact and relapsed by Tuesday. None of it stopped the ache, because none of it gave you a plan.

Get Over Anyone for Good is that plan. In 30 numbered days, Dr. Maya Sutton walks you through exactly what to do each morning, each night, and in every craving in between. You'll learn why your brain treats this person like a drug and how to detox from them on a schedule. You'll get scripts for the moment you want to text, a system that makes No Contact actually stick, and grief rituals that move pain through you instead of trapping you in it. By the end, you won't be faking 'I'm fine.' You'll be genuinely indifferent, fully yourself, and free.

This is not a book about getting them back. It's not about toxic positivity or pretending you didn't love them. It's a structured, secular, science-backed recovery protocol for the specific, humiliating, exhausting pain of still loving someone who is gone. Thirty days. One clear instruction at a time. Your life, returned to you.

I wrote this because 'give it time' nearly destroyed me. Time alone doesn't heal you. What you do with the time does. So I'm going to tell you exactly what to do, one day at a time, until the person who left finally loses their grip on you.

Table of contents

  1. Introduction: You Don't Need More Time, You Need a Plan
  2. Day 1-3: The Detox Begins (Why Your Brain Treats Them Like a Drug)
  3. Day 4-6: No Contact That Actually Sticks
  4. Day 7-9: Killing the Obsessive Thought Loop
  5. Day 10-12: Grieving on Purpose Instead of Forever
  6. Day 13-15: The Memory Edit (Rewriting the Highlight Reel)
  7. Day 16-18: Reclaiming Your Body, Sleep, and Mornings
  8. Day 19-21: Rebuilding an Identity That Isn't About Them
  9. Day 22-24: Handling the Relapse Triggers (Songs, Dates, Mutual Friends)
  10. Day 25-27: From Longing to Indifference
  11. Day 28-30: The New Default (Who You Are Now)
  12. After Day 30: Staying Free and Loving Again When You're Ready
  13. Emergency Toolkit: What to Do at 3am When You Want to Text Them

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Product details

Print length
121 pages
Language
English
Categories
How To Get Over SomeoneNonfictionBooks
Dimensions
6 x 9 inches

About the author

Dr. Maya Sutton

Dr. Maya Sutton is a licensed clinical psychologist and breakup-recovery specialist who has spent fifteen years helping people stop loving someone who left. After her own two-year struggle to get over a man who married someone else six months after dumping her, she stopped trusting 'give it time' and built the structured 30-day protocol she needed and couldn't find. She has since guided thousands of clients through it, and her no-nonsense, science-backed method has become the plan people share with their friends at 3am. She writes the way a good friend talks: warm, blunt, and impossible to argue with.

Customer reviews

★★★★★ 4.8 out of 5 518 global ratings
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A Amanda R.
★★★★★ A Lifeline for the Overwhelmed Heart
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As a busy parent balancing work and family, I don't have time for fluff or vague advice, and this book hits the mark perfectly. It offers a clear, structured 30-day plan that helped me confront and accept the painful emotions after my breakup without getting lost in endless rumination. The daily steps are practical and manageable even with my hectic schedule, guiding me to stop obsessing, regain control, and rebuild a sense of self beyond the relationship. What I appreciate most is how it acknowledges the real emotional turmoil—loss of identity, low confidence, and anxiety—and gives concrete techniques to navigate them. This isn’t just another feel-good book; it’s a hands-on toolkit for healing and moving forward with purpose. Highly recommend it to anyone needing a focused, effective path to recovery.

M Marcus T.
★★★★★ A Must-Have Guide for Moving On
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As someone juggling a startup and a recent breakup, I found this book incredibly practical and straightforward. The structured 30-day plan helped me regain focus, control, and purpose—three elements that truly acted as catalysts for turning emotional chaos into personal growth. The step-by-step approach made it manageable to break free from obsessive thoughts and rebuild my identity outside of the relationship. What stood out most was how the book emphasized personal control as key to healing, which really resonated with me as an entrepreneur used to taking charge. It gave me concrete daily actions rather than vague advice, which made all the difference in getting my life back on track. Highly recommended for anyone serious about moving forward with intention.

P Priya S.
★★★★☆ Practical and Honest Guidance for Moving On
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As someone recently retired, I found this book's straightforward and brave approach refreshing. The author's candid sharing of real-life heartbreak adds a relatable touch that makes the daily steps easier to trust. I especially appreciate how it stresses the value of leaning on support networks during recovery. This 30-day plan offers more than just breakup advice—it feels like a toolkit for resetting life goals. I'll definitely be revisiting it to fully absorb the insights.

D David K.
★★★★★ A Practical Roadmap to Emotional Freedom
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As a full-time freelancer, my emotional wellbeing deeply affects my work and creativity, so when a relationship ended, I was desperate to find a way forward. I had always heard that getting over someone just takes time, but that vague advice felt useless during my darkest moments. This book stood out because it offers a clear, actionable plan rather than empty platitudes. The day-by-day structure gave me tangible steps to follow, which made the overwhelming process of moving on feel manageable. I especially appreciated how it tackled the obsessive thoughts and the temptation to reach out, offering tools that actually work rather than just telling you to 'stop thinking about it.' The focus on intentionally grieving and reshaping memories was eye-opening—it felt like I was reprogramming my brain for healing instead of lingering in pain. What really resonated was the emphasis on rebuilding an identity independent of the relationship. As someone whose work depends on mental clarity and confidence, reclaiming my mornings and self-care routines was a game changer. The book’s guidance on handling triggers—like shared playlists and mutual connections—felt realistic and compassionate. Overall, this isn’t just a book for anyone struggling to let go; it’s a comprehensive toolkit for reclaiming your life and emotional freedom. If you’re ready to do the work and want a practical, supportive guide, this is the one I recommend wholeheartedly.

S Sophia M.
★★★★★ Practical and empowering guide to moving forward
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As a small-business owner constantly juggling stress, this book gave me a clear, actionable plan to navigate the emotional upheaval after a breakup. It breaks down the complex feelings—from anxiety and anger to loneliness—with straightforward daily steps that helped me regain control and focus on healing. The structured approach made the overwhelming process feel manageable and reminded me that recovery is about intentional work, not just time passing. Highly recommend for anyone ready to reclaim their life and move on with confidence.

J James W.
★★★★★ A Practical Guide That Truly Works
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Balancing a full-time job and a side hustle leaves little room for emotional downtime, so I needed something straightforward and effective to help me move on. This book delivers exactly that with a clear, day-by-day system that feels both manageable and empowering. It cuts through the usual vague advice and offers real, actionable steps that helped me break free from obsessive thoughts and regain control of my life. What I particularly appreciated was how the plan acknowledges the emotional complexity of letting go but never gets bogged down in theoretical fluff. Instead, it gives you tools to reclaim your mornings, handle tough triggers, and rebuild your identity beyond the relationship. It's been a game changer for me, and I highly recommend it to anyone juggling busy lives but ready to get over someone for good.

E Elena V.
★★★★☆ Relatable Guidance for Healing Hearts
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Just graduated and dealing with a tough breakup, this book felt like a friend who truly gets it. The step-by-step daily plan helped me see the logic behind why moving on is so hard and gave me practical ways to handle those obsessive thoughts. I appreciated the mix of personal insight and clear advice—though at times the message felt a bit repetitive. Still, it’s been a solid companion through a rough patch.

R Robert H.
★★★★★ A Clear Path Forward When I Thought I Was Stuck
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At first, I was skeptical that any book could offer real help for moving on from someone you still deeply love. I’ve read countless vague advice and felt stuck in the endless cycle of hope and pain. But this book completely changed my perspective. The author doesn’t just sympathize with your feelings—they explain exactly why your brain reacts the way it does and then give you a step-by-step plan to break free. What I appreciated most was the day-by-day structure. It’s practical and easy to follow, moving from understanding the addiction-like pull of those memories to implementing No Contact that truly works. The sections on intentionally grieving and rewriting the memories that keep you hooked were especially eye-opening. It felt like the book was designed to dismantle the obsessive thoughts piece by piece, and it delivered. By the end of the 30 days, I felt a remarkable shift—not just less pain, but a new sense of identity that isn’t tied to that relationship anymore. This book gave me the tools to stop reliving the past and start reclaiming my future. If you’re tired of feeling stuck and want real, actionable guidance, this plan is worth your time.

J Jessica L.
★★★★☆ Practical and Empowering Guide
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Recovering from a tough breakup is never simple, especially when you’ve invested so much trying to make it work. This book offers clear, actionable steps in manageable daily bites that really help you take control and move forward without feeling overwhelmed. The author’s straightforward approach to handling the waves of grief and obsessive thoughts, combined with inspiring stories of people who have rebuilt their lives, makes this plan feel achievable and grounded. Perfect for anyone looking to regain stability without wasting time or money on vague advice. Highly recommend for a no-nonsense recovery roadmap.

D Daniel S.
★★★★☆ Practical and Refreshingly Realistic
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I’ve read plenty of breakup advice that felt either too vague or overly optimistic, so I appreciated how this book lays out a clear, day-by-day approach. It’s obvious the author truly understands the emotional rollercoaster because the guidance feels authentic and grounded. While it didn't completely transform my outlook overnight, the actionable steps gave me a solid framework to follow when I was stuck in my own head. If you’ve been let down by empty platitudes before, this book offers practical tools rather than just well-meaning clichés. I’d recommend it to anyone who needs a straightforward plan to finally move past someone who’s no longer in their life.

L Laura B.
★★★★★ A Practical Guide That Really Works
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I was at my wit's end, struggling to stop thinking about someone who was no longer in my life. This book gave me a clear, no-nonsense plan to manage those overwhelming feelings day by day. Whenever I felt the urge to reach out, the steps helped me stay strong and keep my distance, which was exactly what I needed. Slowly, the obsessive thoughts faded, and I began to rebuild my sense of self without them. It taught me to honor my emotions but also to move forward with confidence. Months later, I found myself happier and more grounded than I ever expected. I highly recommend this book to anyone ready to take control of their healing and find real freedom.

C Chris G.
★★★★★ A Must-Have Blueprint for Anyone Facing Heartbreak
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As someone who thrives on structure and clear steps, I can confidently say this book is exactly what I needed at the toughest moment of my breakup. It delivers a meticulously crafted 30-day plan that doesn’t just offer vague advice but breaks down each phase of healing into manageable, actionable tasks. From understanding why your brain clings to the past like an addiction, through establishing No Contact that truly works, to finally rebuilding your sense of self—it’s all here in a logical, step-by-step progression that made me feel empowered rather than overwhelmed. What stood out most was how this book helped me regain control without the typical fluff. The emphasis on quieting obsessive thoughts and purposely grieving was a game changer. I appreciated the practical social media advice too; it’s so easy to inadvertently reveal more than you intend during a breakup, and the strategies here helped me maintain my privacy and dignity throughout the process. I followed the plan to the letter and noticed how it minimized the usual emotional rollercoaster and public drama that can come with a breakup. I cannot recommend this resource enough—not just for yourself but for any woman in your life who might be struggling silently. It’s an affordable, clear-headed guide that you’ll want to revisit, and it truly feels like having a wise friend hold your hand through the hardest days. If you want to stop spinning in circles and actually start moving forward with your life, this is the book to get.

N Nina P.
★★★★☆ Practical guide for busy minds recovering from love
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As a working mom balancing a hectic schedule, I found this 30-day plan refreshingly straightforward and doable. It cuts through the fluff with clear daily steps to really help you move past someone who’s no longer in your life, especially the parts about quieting obsessive thoughts and sticking to no contact. I appreciate how it respects your time and mental space while reinforcing your self-worth—a message every woman juggling life and heartbreak needs. The advice on handling triggers and rebuilding your identity felt spot-on. I do wish the writing was a bit tighter—there were moments where the phrasing could've been clearer, which made me pause, but overall it got the message across. Definitely a helpful resource for anyone needing practical tools to heal and reclaim their life.

A Anthony D.
★★★★★ Essential Guide for Moving On with Purpose
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As a first-time entrepreneur, I’m used to tackling challenges head-on, but overcoming a tough breakup felt overwhelming and confusing. This book gave me a clear, step-by-step plan to stop the endless cycle of hoping and checking, which had been holding me back emotionally and mentally. It’s concise yet packed with practical advice that feels refreshingly honest and doable. I appreciate how it replaces the usual vague encouragement to just ‘give it time’ with concrete daily actions that helped me regain control and rebuild my identity beyond the relationship. The strategies here felt empowering, especially for someone like me who’s ready to focus on growth and new beginnings. I’d recommend this to anyone, especially if you’re tired of being stuck and want a real plan to move forward.

R Rachel C.
★★★★★ Practical and empowering for anyone struggling
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I picked up this book when I was navigating some tough emotions after a breakup late in life. The straightforward, day-by-day approach really helped me stand firm and not fall back into old patterns of hoping or reacting. The guidance felt compassionate but firm, just what I needed to regain control and rebuild my own life without feeling lost. For anyone feeling overwhelmed or mistreated, this plan offers solid steps to reclaim your strength and peace.

K Kevin O.
★★★★★ A Game-Changer for Moving On
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As a full-time freelancer, my schedule is unpredictable and my mind can easily spiral into anxious loops—especially after a breakup. This book provided exactly the structured guidance I needed to finally break free from the constant heartache. The 30-day, day-by-day system was like having a practical coach by my side, guiding me through the tough stages without overwhelming me. I’ve been implementing the no-contact strategies from day one, and mentally I can already feel a big difference. Instead of wasting time obsessing or refreshing my phone endlessly, I’m filling my days with meaningful projects and even volunteering on weekends, something I’d neglected for far too long. The book’s emphasis on purposeful grieving and rebuilding my identity beyond the relationship really resonated with me. It helped me redirect my energy into becoming a stronger, more focused version of myself. Approaching week three now, I can honestly say that the thought of getting back with my ex feels almost ridiculous—unless he suddenly shows up doing something wildly impressive! What’s more, focusing on me and my growth has unexpectedly attracted new, authentic connections. It’s empowering to shift from longing to indifference and know I’m moving forward on my own terms. For any freelancer juggling the chaos of life and heartbreak, this book is an invaluable roadmap to reclaiming control and embracing a brighter chapter.

M Maria F.
★★★★★ Exactly What I Needed to Move Forward
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As a small business owner constantly juggling stress and uncertainty, this book hit me right where it counts after a painful breakup. The straightforward, day-by-day approach cut through the usual vague advice and gave me practical steps I could actually follow. The author’s tone is both firm and compassionate—it’s like having a wise friend guiding you through the worst moments without sugarcoating the hard truths. This book kept me engaged from start to finish, making a tough process feel manageable and real. If your heart is shattered and you don’t know where to start, this is the clear, empowering roadmap you’ve been waiting for.

B Brandon J.
★★★★☆ Practical and Compassionate Guide to Moving On
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After a painful breakup where I constantly found myself hoping for a different outcome, this book offered exactly the realistic support I needed. It’s focused specifically on navigating the difficult no-contact period and breaking free from obsessive thoughts, which makes it a must-have if you’re stuck in that confusing space between hope and acceptance. The straightforward daily plan helped me regain control without feeling like I was playing any kind of emotional games. What I appreciated most was the emphasis on honoring yourself and reconnecting with the person you were before the relationship took over your life. The book reminded me that my value didn’t diminish just because someone else stopped showing up, and that true healing starts by rebuilding your identity and routines. This approach felt both empowering and practical—perfect for someone like me juggling a corporate job and a side hustle, needing actionable steps more than vague advice. Highly recommended for anyone ready to move on with dignity and clear purpose.

H Hannah W.
★★★★★ Exactly what I needed after graduation
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This book came into my life at the perfect moment! As a recent grad struggling to move on from someone I thought was forever, the daily plan helped me tackle my obsessive thoughts step-by-step. Without such clear guidance, I honestly don’t know how I would’ve made it through this tough transition. It truly felt like a lifesaver for my mental health.

T Tyler N.
★★★★☆ Skeptical at first, but this 30-day plan really works!
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I started reading this book with a fair amount of doubt, wondering if yet another breakup guide could actually help me move on. I've been struggling to let go after a long relationship, and the constant mental back-and-forth was exhausting. But the structured, day-by-day approach laid out here gave me a real sense of direction. Following the steps to truly implement No Contact was by far the hardest part — especially knowing they hadn't reached out at all. Yet, this book made me realize that sticking to No Contact isn't just a vague suggestion; it’s a critical detox for my heart and mind. What I appreciated most was how this plan helped me become so much more aware of my own patterns—why I was obsessing, why I kept hoping for things to change, and how irrational some of my thoughts were. That kind of insight alone gave me strength to keep going, even when I felt like giving up or doubting the whole process. I can honestly say if I’d applied this sooner, I wouldn’t be caught in such a painful loop now. My one critique is that the book doesn’t offer much guidance on what to do if the person does come back after the No Contact period. I’m concerned about how to maintain my progress without slipping back into old behaviors, especially since doing No Contact a second time might feel forced or less effective. A chapter or section on handling a reunion or setting new boundaries would be a welcome addition. All in all, this book gave me practical tools and emotional clarity that I desperately needed. I’m still on day 15, but I already feel more in control and hopeful. If you’re struggling to stop loving someone who’s gone, I highly recommend giving this plan a serious chance. Trust me, it’s worth sticking with.

Editorial praise

“The first breakup book I've read that treats heartbreak like the medical-grade problem it is. Sutton doesn't comfort you to death; she gives you a schedule and refuses to let you drown.”

“Most 'move on' books are 200 pages of permission to feel sad. This is 30 days of permission to actually get better. The Emergency Toolkit alone is worth the price.”

“Aggressively practical and impossible to put down. By Day 9 our test readers had stopped checking their ex's profile. That is not normal. That is the book.”